I am wondering whether someone would appreciate a message, about the death of his child, on her death anniversary. My gut says yes, my brain says no. And I am foremost keeping this person in my thoughts even if I don’t ever express it, for whatever reasons, even if they are good ones. What would you say to someone who has a birthday and a death date to celebrate at the same time? How do I know if my actions and thoughts are based on my selfish reasons, or more for the recipient of this message? Sometimes it’s just so confusing!  And sometimes it is a burden to be a highly sensitive person, which we never talk about in society because we’re not suppose to be sensitive and are suppose to be indestructible, resilient, up beat, successful, confident ALL THE TIME!  Give us a break!